Several weeks ago I went and saw the movie “Morning Glory,” with a couple of the women I work with. We all share a small chick crush on Rachel McAdams and thought that the movie had potential to be entertaining. It, of course, did not disappoint, as I am pretty sure Diane Keaton just gets better with age.
An unexpected bonus, however, was that of Patrick Wilson’s character, Adam Bennett. Other than simply being sexy as hell and rocking the semi-tortured reporter persona I have been known to fall for, there was a single moment in the movie that made me say “I want that.”
Early in their relationship, McAdams’ character, Becky, was on a neurotic, stress-filled rampage and she was treating him like crap, so instead of the typical rom-com sweetness, he just got up and left. He called her on her shit, told her to hers together and he left. And, at that instant, I thought it was the romantic thing in the world.
Granted, it was right around the time Rock Doc crossed the line from cute to creepy, but that movie moment went a long way to making me realize some very basic characteristics I want, and perhaps need, in a mate. Adam pushed Becky – her buttons, her patience and her potential – because he respected the woman she was and the woman he knew she could be. He made her work for it though.
And I think the collective stubbornness and neurosis between the two of them made them better together. It’s obviously not a perfect relationship; I am realistic enough to know those don’t exist, but I think two people that keep each other on their respective toes can go a long way.
What do I know though? I think everyone reading this know I have some issues, even before finding out my idea of a great relationship involves the man getting up and leaving.
So I decided to pose the question to my friends, asking them what movie or television character would be their ideal mate and why. Some of their answers follow:
• Marshall Eriksen - How I Met Your Mother
He values relationship with Lilly, has a steady job, isn’t afraid to act like an ass, values family and friends … plus Jason Segel is sexy as hell.
• Longfellow Deeds – Mr. Deeds
He's just a sweetheart that gives a shitload less about $$ and wants to have a relationship like his parents … and once again - Adam Sandler is sexy as hell
• Albert Brennaman – Hitch
1. He's shy/nerdy in a way that makes it endearing and despite having funny ways to tell you how he cares, it’s very sweet.
2. He loves sports.
3. He obviously isn't afraid to fight for you.
• Adam Braverman – Parenthood or Rob Petrie – Dick Van Dyke Show.
Both caring husbands, good dads.
• Shawn Spencer – Psych
• Burton Guster – Psych
• Detective Sergeant Hathaway – Inspector Lewis
Because they are funny, funny, funny and … witty.
This is certainly a work in progress as I wait to hear back from friends who don’t spend their days linked to email, twitter and/or instant messenger. The common threads of loyalty and adoration should hopefully not come as a surprise to anyone though, as I would hope those are a pretty common foundation for successful relationships.
While I wait for more responses, I’m going to keep looking for a guy that isn’t afraid to call bullshit, or to be on the receiving end of the same declaration.
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